tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2254829798736303196.post4195606003341121443..comments2024-03-22T03:03:59.461-06:00Comments on Enthusiastic Fantastic: Unfriending vs. UnfollowingAdrie Petersonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06791711390477027547noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2254829798736303196.post-11678516078040125592014-08-16T16:03:50.351-06:002014-08-16T16:03:50.351-06:00I understand where you are coming from, but I LOVE...I understand where you are coming from, but I LOVE the unfollow button. I have a couple of close-in-real-life friends and family who I don't want to unFRIEND, but they post things that are not in line with my values, and it often really bothers me. So I unfollower them. BUT every once in a while I want to check in and see what is happening in their lives, so I look them up using the "friends" list and check out their wall. Can I give you an example? I have someone who used to be a really good friend IRL, but because of time and distance we have drifted apart. As of the last few years, this friend has started posting some anti-Mormon propaganda, or liking it anyway. This person KNOWS I am mormon and how much it means to me, but I realize that most of their Facebook friends probably aren't. I was allowing it to really hurt me, but then I realized I could unfollow this person and not hurt any feelings and still check in when I wanted, but not allow myself to be hurt by all the offensive posts or likes. Does that make sense? <br /><br />I really think you are looking into too much. People can be very apathetic, but it isn't anything personal about you. Some people NEVER post, but every once in a while they might comment or tag, and it makes it even that much more meaningful. I say just keep on putting your positive vibes out into the world, not caring whether people are really engaging. If YOU are engaged in the way you want to be, then Facebook serves its purpose for you. <br /><br />I so totally understand your love/hate relationship with Facebook. I have started doing what I call a "Facebook sabbath" every Sunday. I realized that I was checking in on Facebook WAY too often, so I decided to distance myself from it. Not checking in at all one day a week helps tremendously. I find that I don't have a desire to check Facebook as often the other days of the week either. That lends itself to much more productivity in my life, and I feel like I am actually happier. I have a feeling it is the whole culture-comparison thing NOT at work as much in my life. Anyway, I totally love you and hope you can find a balance that works for you!Denitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11958798847232054652noreply@blogger.com